Posted on January 28th, 2011 by SD.
Here are the facts:
- My partner is butch.
- She will be wearing a rented tux to our wedding due to budgetary constraints.
- She has never worn a tux before.
- She hates being hot (wearing lots of layers of clothes).
- This is going to be more difficult than I though.
Thank goodness for the internet because I was able to read and forward along several blog posts to her about the suit/tux shopping process. Early on I tasked her best man with the suit shopping because we were going to try and keep what we’re wearing a secret from one another until the big day, but….they went to a suit shop and there were too many questions about dress shirt style, vest and jacket, so now I have to pick the pattern of vest and the color of the groomsmen vest/tie and she’ll do the rest.
Posted on January 18th, 2011 by Erica C.
Reflections on Gender Identity, Masculinity and an ultra-feminine past
I have looked for countless days and months to find something to wear for our wedding. The problem is I won’t be wearing a dress- if only it were that simple, I could have one picked out in 10 minutes. But alas, the last time I wore a dress I was told I looked like a really bad drag queen- and I agree. The last serious time I wore a dress was when I was 18 and graduating from high school- an all girl’s prep school in Connecticut (whose famous alumni include Jackie Kennedy Onassis). It was a finishing school, and let me tell you, I came out of that place definitely as unfinished as a raggedy un-upholstered sofa from the 70s.
Miss Porter’s High School Graduation-2004
So I guess this is more than just finding the right Jones New York pant suit that doesn’t scream 36 year-old breadwinning soccer mom. This is a manifestation of my ongoing struggle with my own body. I am a masculine identified woman, which is a lot for the average Joe to comprehend. People ask me, “So are you the boy in the relationship?”- Well no, we are both girls. But instead of explaining the whole lesbian relationship dynamic of a butch/femme, I just nod my head and reply “Kind of…but I’m totally the little spoon.” Usually I don’t get any follow up questions.
Posted on December 9th, 2010 by Erica.
Photo by Wyatt Olson Photography
So now that you’ve seen the sneak peak of our epic country kitsch wedding and while I’m waiting for more glorious photos, I’m gonna give at little look back to all the thought and stuff and consideration and debate that went into our glorious California wedding cause, really, the planning went by so fast–6 months! SIX months!!–that I’ve hardly had time to take it all in, let alone maybe you. And since the whole point of the wedding was to get to marry my wife, I thought I’d start with her–and her epic outfit.
If you’ve been around SYE for a while, you may remember back in the spring that Alex opted for a gorgeous, three-piece suit made by Gresham Blake in Brighton (by gorgeous, I mean gorgeous, and worth every penny–her suit cost more than both my dresses combined. I’m sorry, who’s the bride here?! Oh, right, we both are…) and she picked out two well-tailored button-ups from Hawes & Curtis.
The ‘romantic’ shirt for the ceremony
Image by Cornish Wedding Photography
Posted on August 26th, 2010 by Jen.
Finding Sam’s wedding suit was much more challenging than finding my dress. We knew there were hot suits out there to be had, but finding the right fit for each individual body is daunting!
We have been looking for months and decided to venture out with fresh eyes this weekend, as many stores have new fall lines out this month. Having decided to be open minded and basically try on every suit in the mall, we wandered around Copley Place and eventually found our way to Benetton for Men. We were greeted by Matt, who really knew his suits and was delighted that we were shopping for our wedding. (He also informed us that he lives near our venue and might crash.) It was great to be helped by someone who wasn’t raising an eyebrow, and we were able to take our time and try out different looks. Matt was even kind enough to give us 10% off the entire suit as a wedding present! Ready to see what we came home with?