Posted on August 11th, 2011 by Nicole.
Our invitations went out this past week so now that our guests have gotten a good look, I can share them with all of you! As a self-taught graphic artist, I kept thinking I should probably design our invites from scratch and utilize some of my free skills, but every time I tried to create something, I got frustrated with my own work. Inspiration just wouldn’t strike. I liked the ideas I came up with, but just not for us. Luckily, while ordering our Save the Date magnets from Vistaprint.com, I spotted a set of cards and invites with a beautiful, modern design that reminded me very much of our venue. When Rose immediately swooned over them, I knew they were the right choice - and without putting any additional stress on me for coming up with something on my own!
What I like about Vistaprint is that you can arrange the text on their designs in almost any way that strikes your fancy. I could play with fonts and layout to my heart’s content, and still make me feel like I used some of my skills. The whole set of 70 invitation cards (including envelopes), reception information cards and RSVP cards (also with envelopes) cost under $100. Pretty budget friendly if I do say so myself! How do you think they turned out?
I just love the little detail of the rings hanging from string because it reminds me of how we will be doing our ring warming ceremony.
My absolute favorite part of the whole invitation set is the RSVP card. For these, I did get a little creative (*pats self on back*) and made up a Mad Libs for guests to fill in to let us know that they can come. I seriously cannot wait to get these back in the mail!
Now when it came down to addressing them, I got a little stumped. I know that the formal way to address wedding invitations to married couples is “Mr. & Mrs. John Doe,” but I felt like this was dated and sexist. What woman really considers herself to have taken both her husband’s first and last names? It makes me feel like we are acknowledging that a wife loses part of her identity when she is “sent off” to her husband. Lame! And coming from a lesbian couple that really does not fit into any of these hetero norms, it just seemed strange to follow. I wanted our invitations to be written as formally as possible, but I just could not make myself refer to some of my closest female friends by their husband’s name. At first I tried “Mr. John Doe & Mrs. Jane Doe” but thought that this had the possibility of becoming very long and VERY messy quickly! We finally decided to write “Mr. & Mrs. Doe” for couples that shared a last name. This seemed a little less personal, but resolved the issue of playing into outdated tradition. How did you or will you address your invites?
Now we are just playing the waiting game to get our RSVP’s back. Honestly, there are a few responses I am almost dreading. My parents and sister declined my invitation to our courthouse legalities last year, and I suspect they may do the same this year. They believe that by showing support to me in any way, they are showing God that they approve of my “sinful” lifestyle. It is going to break my heart if they do not attend, especially if I find out simply on paper. After sucking it up and going to my sister’s wedding where we felt like outcasts most of the time, I hope they will realize that they should be able to put our differences of opinion to the side in order to show their love for me. But I refuse to dwell on that right now. You never know what lies in people’s hearts and I will just trust that they will make the best choice. There will be plenty of fun “attending” RSVP’s flooding our mailbox soon!
Posted on May 17th, 2011 by Michael.
As I’d imagine, for most people, the cost of the wedding is a big consideration when deciding to have one in the first place. But when we decided to have a larger wedding, which was among other options–nice dinner out with immediate family or something small at a winery–the next thing we did was try to figure out how much money we could save before the wedding. After our headache subsided from doing so much difficult math—adding is hard, okay!–we had a rough idea of how much we can save in a year. First, we were kind of shocked and second, we thought….frig a wedding, let’s go to Spain for two weeks!! Then after we spent just enough time dreaming of siestas (like that, dreaming about sleeping) and walks on the beaches of Barcelona, we got to the next part of the process: The Budget.
This was kind of hard, because we really had no idea what things cost, beyond the food/alcohol and venue, all the other stuff was a bit of mystery. So we just started to list things, photographer, DJ, flowers, etc. etc. and just made guesstimates about what each item would cost. Thankfully we were not too off, as we started to line up vendors. So after we knew what we could save, subtracted that from the estimated total cost, we knew how much we would probably have to put on credit, which was not as much as we thought. Then we both opened 12 month 0% interest credit cards to float whatever bills we can’t pay with cash before the wedding. Another thing we did was open a dedicated savings account for the wedding. And we put whatever extra money we get into that account, beyond direct deposits from our pay checks. A funny side effect of this dedicated saving, is how we think of money. Now when we get some extra money, we say, “oh,nice, that is another person who can eat at our wedding!” It is rewarding, to see our saving, and cutting corners, pay off. It makes the idea of saving to buy a house more obtainable.
Posted on March 22nd, 2011 by Erica.
Put on a wedding for little ol’ us? How much?!
Howdy, partners! We’ve made it!
Ok, sorry, I lay off the country-isms for a while (at least until the end). This is the final of my recaps for our California wedding–second-time-around, just-like-new-all-over-again-wedding. As this wedding was US-based (i.e. I won’t have to convert pounds for dollars for a lot of you) and we were on a somewhat-tighter budget (and we contributed more), I thought I’d end with our budget.
How much we were spending frightened me continually throughout our year and a half planning for our 2 weddings. We were incredible grateful to have both sets of our parents fund the majority of both weddings combined. We also had few aunts/uncles/cousins flat out give us cash–without any strings attached–or have family or friends gift us everything from 5 jars of jam to a black and white photo booth. (Let alone, on top of that, contribute to our honeymoon-to-come on our registry through Deposit a Gift, SYE vendor.)
Posted on February 23rd, 2011 by Brian.
I thought it might be helpful to tell you a little bit about the venue we chose. This amazing place was Las Caletas, a little “island” about an hour from the marina in Puerto Vallarta. Las Caletas, once home of Hollywood director John Huston, is now owned and operated by Vallarta Adventures, a tour provider. They provide all kinds of wonderful tours for the adventurous traveler in addition to wedding services on their beautiful beach for couples of all types – and their LGBT clientele is certainly growing!
- Photography by Kristina Hill
The company hires only locals which is a wonderful thing, and all of the leftover food and such is donated local community centers. Nothing goes to waste and they are very interested in promoting local businesses and people. Kelley was our wedding planner and she was simply wonderful. We immediately became fast friends. And the venue – absolutely gorgeous. It is secluded, natural, and completely unique. Our guests never wanted to leave.