Our first dances were so so fun!! Nat and I practiced our first dance a few times because I normally lead and we didn’t want to do that on our big day. Ha! I also wanted her to practice twirling me since I was going to be a bit taller than her and wearing some significant heels! She did great and our first dance song was just about as lesbitronic as you can get – “Andy” by the Indigo Girls. It was a big lesbo wedding after all – we should dance to the Indigo Girls, right?? After Nat and I got our first dance out of the way I got to dance with my Dad to “Just The Way You Are” by Billy Joel. I have fond memories of listening to Billy Joel with my Dad while driving around in one of his classic cars. He twirled me like a pro thanks to a few tutorials by my wonderful step-mother. Nat and I decided that we wanted more than just the traditional first dance as a couple and father daughter dance – we were going to include my mom in it somehow. I got to dance 3 times that day which is great cause I love the spotlight! So, I decided to choreograph a simple little routine to a song that we both could shimmy to – “Sway With Me” by Rosemary Clooney. Nat recorded a short video of me dancing the routine and we sent it off to her. My mom and I got one practice in her hotel room the day before and I think that it was a crowd favorite.The first dances produced some great pics and be sure to spend some time choosing your song – make sure it means a lot to both of you and do something unexpected….it’ll create great memories for not only you, but also your guests.
You might remember my first blog post about the big plans I had for our dessert table – it was going to be epic and I was going to do it all. Sadly, time and resources prohibited me from doing it all (big shocker), so I enlisted some of my best friends to help me make it a reality and they did NOT disappoint. I had 4 separate people baking cakes & cupcakes and I asked one of my super fab gay friends to decorate/design it. What my dessert table designer came up with blew me away. Who has a dessert table with hanging edible cinnamon rolls on it? We did! I think that the dessert table was a great way to save money and it was very memorable for our guests. We could not have accomplished this fantastic dessert table without my friends. I am eternally grateful to them for their help.
Right after the ceremony we spent a few moments alone soaking it all in. Then we headed outside to the front of the bar where we got to shoot some ‘Just Married’ photos. There were people taking photos of us on the street, which I thought was cute! I love these photos because we did it – we really did it!
Our ceremony was a wonderful heartfelt celebration of who Nat and I are as a couple. Nat was in charge of the music and she decided that everyone would listen to classical music while getting settled in and that she’d also walk in with a classical piece. All of our attendants walked in to classical music too – you might’ve thought that we’d keep things on the calm side, yes?! NO! I’m a huge fan of the film Muriel’s Wedding and I love the fact that she walked down the aisle to ABBA, so I did the same. Look at my friend’s faces as the music changes! Everyone was smiling and bouncing up and down at the altar. I was smiling so hard that my cheeks hurt. We had our lovely friend marry us and she wrote a beautiful service. Other personal touches we added in were a reading by my mom & one by my dear friend, Jen Cross. She’s a local writer and I’ll post her piece down below – it was a real tear jerker. Nat and I did rock, paper, scissors to decide who would read their vows first and of course she won! She always wins…although at first we did tie. Nat’s vows were incredible and she recited from memory her favorite Shakespearean sonnet. I was in tears! The ceremony was one of the last things we figured out and that’s normally how it goes. We knew we wanted certain aspects like reading from our friends/family and we wanted love & laughter. The ceremony flew by, so make it memorable. One of my favorite parts was when my nephew ran over to my sister (my maid of honor) and he was being a bit distracting, so I called a “kiddy time out” then someone in the audience yelled, “Cats not kids!” Freaking hilarious!