Posted on March 3rd, 2011 by cynthia.
If you were ever to look at my fiancee and myself, you would probably wonder if she is the more dominate between the two of us. After all, she is taller – she has more of the tomboyish look, even though I see her more as a ‘blipster’ (translation: black hipster). She has the skinny jeans, the hi-tops, the college t-shirts and even though she wears skirts and dresses that is not typical of her style. Me on the other hand, I wear nothing but skirts with a mix of heels or flip-flops (when the weather permits, of course), I’m shorter, I tend to celebrate my curvaceousness and all things feminine. So looking at us, you would probably think she was the man in the relationship which usually happens when we are dealing with the straights.
Which annoys both of us to no end. Our exterior appearance notwithstanding, between the two of us, she is more sensitive, I’m more of the rock and we both like to watch sports and play video games so in our minds our relationship is pretty balanced but it really amazes me how quickly we are thrust into two categories. After all, why can’t we be two women in love?
Posted on February 24th, 2011 by cynthia.
I briefly mentioned before that I don’t have the best relationships with my dad’s extended family. In fact, I really have no relationship with them and truth be told, it doesn’t bother me at all. Being that all of them except one claim religion when it is convenient for them, I’m sure they would love nothing more to decline any invitation of mine if given the opportunity.
Yet, my issue doesn’t stem from them but more from my dad’s second wife. I will refrain from going into detail about how I truly feel about her because I really could go on all day. This is going to be a totally random post but one that I have been marinating on a lot lately, I just want to make sure I don’t sound like I’m entering bridezilla territory. Okay, so I see my dad’s second wife as unstable and our relationship is shaky, which is putting it nicely. As I discussed before, my father agreed to come to wedding and perform his ‘fatherly’ duties, which makes me very happy but that also means she’ll be coming along for the ride. I know that the wedding won’t be an all day affair but she just really knows how to ruin a damn good time. I have witnessed this numerous times and I just know the type of person that she is.
For example, when I went up there in December – she kept complaining about how I ruined her entire “wedding”. I use quotes because they were already married since they went off and eloped and now she wanted to be queen for a day. Now, when they had their church wedding, I was in a very unhappy place. I lost my mother to cancer less than a year ago, I was in Georgia alone and things between my father and I were touchy. I actually didn’t want to be in any pictures and tried my best to stay out of them but from what she said, “I ruined everything!”
Posted on February 17th, 2011 by cynthia.
So we have decided. We are going to forge ahead and have an all vegetarian wedding. Which is a load off of mine, I have to be honest that I struggled with it because outside Lash, my dad, my dad’s second wife, and myself there are no other vegetarians (that I know of) that will be coming to our wedding. Most of the people that we know are avid meat lovers so I really didn’t want to put people at odds over our reception. I get like that at times, I get wrapped up in making sure everyone else has a wonderful time that I forget the reasoning behind why everyone will be gathered there in the first place. Which is, to celebrate the love that Lash and I both share.
I figure that I have gone to plenty of places and a couple of weddings where I couldn’t really eat anything and I put my feelings aside because the event was not about me. After all, vegetarian doesn’t mean a reception that serves nothing but salad! Hell, I love myself salad (which is not a requirement, I know plenty of vegetarians that hate vegetables – it is quite funny) but I would go crazy if I was surrounded by a sea of leafy greens! So, I have resubmitted proposals to the caterers that we are looking at in Maryland changing our food options to all vegetarian to see what they come up.
I can’t wait to see the options, even though I wish we were allowed to bring in our own caterer because there is a place that we love (well, we love the Atlanta locale – we have to try the DC one) called Soul Vegetarian, which is an all vegan American, soul food restaurant. They are small with a few locations along the Southeast, they have one in both Atlanta and Charleston. The prices are reasonable, the food is delicious (well, I’ve only had the barbecued kale bone as a entree because it is so damn good) and they cater!
Posted on February 10th, 2011 by cynthia.
On Sunday, the fiancee, the best friend and I all attended a LGBT Bridal show in Atlanta. It was my first time going to a bridal show not to mention it being of the LGBTQ persuasion. I had been looking forward to it since seeing it advertised this year, mainly because being that we are in Atlanta – which is seen as the gay part of the bible belt (if such a thing exists); I believed that it would be a huge assortment of LGBT vendors to at least talk to about our upcoming nuptials.
Well, sadly – that was not the case. Truthfully, I’m glad it was on Sunday, which means that we didn’t have to pay the meters because I was literally in there for about 30 minutes. The bridal expo seemed to fit into the tiniest room available at the hotel and we all felt that most of the vendors didn’t want to be there. I’m not sure if it was due to the time that we arrived or something but the energy was way low.
I don’t want to bash the expo, I appreciate that they put on a service catering to the community but I didn’t see a lot of things that catered to me being a POC (person of color) bride – to – be. I just found it a bit disheartening, even though I did get to see a lot of photos of mainly straight couples but the photos were nicely done.