So to recap, my fiancée and I are currently debating wedding venues. Should we have it in DC or Maryland (hopefully, MD will legalize soon), factor being the cost. I told my father after our dramatic Christmas trip back up north, thankfully he is on aboard. I have my maid of honor – well, I didn’t officially ask her; we just knew that she as going to assume her rightful place (LOL) right next to me. I am going to my first LGBT wedding expo here in Atlanta this Sunday – I will be taking plenty of pictures – and then I’ll be going somewhere to watch the Superbowl (see how I prioritize?).
Now the hard part is coming, saving up money for the wedding. Our budget is going to be S10, 000 and I’m going to try my best to tow that line, which is why I’m leaning more towards having the wedding in Baltimore over DC; while at the same time, I’m trying my best not to panic.
$10,000 is a big chunk of change to me but I feel when it comes to the wedding industry it is seen as laughable. I am worried that when some things fall through the cracks (which they will, it just happens) that the end results might bite us on the butt. My main concern is with food and alcohol because of how damn expensive it is. I have already started my hand wringing, so thinking of my sanity, I happily signed over this task to the fiancée and she seems to be enjoying it.
Yet, I still have concerns. I did see some of the estimates and I had to laugh because I couldn’t believe some of the pricing. I’m all for paying for good service but some of the pricing seemed to be a little far-fetched. So that got my mind a-thinkin’ about ways to trim the fat when it comes to our catering budget. Okay, so I have to ask you all out there, is it so wrong to have a short reception and then choose an after party nightspot? I’ll explain my reasoning in a bit because currently the boo and I are not seeing eye-to-eye on this concept.
This is where I’m coming from our wedding is going to be on the small side (50 people, if we’re lucky) but our friends and family both eat and drink A LOT. I mean A LOT, A LOT – my brother alone can probably eat for a family of 4 by himself and I don’t even want to think about the open bar situation. So knowing that if you give folks unlimited options, they will indulge themselves on an unlimited scale, I am already concerned about the bill. So I mentioned to Lash that maybe we should just skip the sit down dinner and instead, pass around appetizers and limit the bar to beer, wine, and soda. Then afterwards, we can go out to a bar or club and dance (or drink) the night away. My perception being that if we offer decent amount of appetizers, people would still get food and having a beer, wine, and soda bar there will also be drink on hand but the dent to our pockets won’t be as treacherous.
Still, I don’t want to come off as cheap and I do believe we should offer food and some type of libation but do we really need a buffet, a formal dinner or full open bar? I just know right now, the food is averaging us around $5000 from the assortment of caterers that we have been in contact with and that is even after negotiating. Do people notice this? I have only been to two weddings and I really don’t remember having food at the first one and at the second, they had their reception at a Chinese buffet.
Are there any other options to look into?