Thanks to pro-gay vendors, Sara Plus Ryan, for sending us this engagement session from two readers of So You’re EnGAYged who we adore!
I came home from participating in the MS Walk in Carlsbad and I was getting ready for a date later that same evening. I went to meet my date and waited at a bar in Hillcrest, the “gay-borhood” of San Diego, and the person never showed up. So after a few drinks I went home and decided to do some shopping therapy online. I got onto Craigslist San Diego looking to purchase a snowboard for myself. As my search for a snowboard that I liked came up empty handed, I went to check out the Personals section- Women seeking Women. There were a few ads that gave me a laugh and actually made me feel better. Then I came across this one that mentioned it kept getting flagged, so of course, I had to check it out. I opened it up and it was a long essay laying EVERYTHING out as far as expectations and putting out things about herself that may deter others.
Like these are “all my flaws, love ‘em or leave ‘em!” She was very descriptive, blunt, and to the point – there was no room for questions. Having read the whole post, and I did read the WHOLE post, I scrolled to the very end and found two pictures of her. At that moment, I was taken aback by everything I had read and her smile was the icing on the cake, I just had to reply. So I responded to her ad! I later found out that Tami had a bad night and run in with an ex-girlfriend that prompted her to post an angry ad in craigslist of all places. It worked! We are proof that true love can be found in the most unexpected places. Our first date was a day at Disneyland and we have been inseparable since!
Tami was planning her birthday brunch at Tower 23 in Pacific Beach. Knowing her closest friends and family would be there, I felt that this would be a great opportunity to surprise her and propose to her during her brunch. I actually had planned to propose months before on a trip to Disneyland, but I couldn’t get the ring on time, and Tami actually caught me off guard by proposing to me that day! So I knew that I had to really make it special and unexpected.
During the brunch, we began to open presents. I handed her my present, which she had already figured out was the purse she’d been wanting since before we met. She took out the purse from the box and looked inside. Inside the purse contained a DVD with a note that said “play me.” Tami turned to me with a look like “how am I supposed to play this?” and I already had a portable DVD player ready. The DVD was a picture montage of us from our first date to the present set to music I had selected that I felt best depicted how I felt for her. At the end of the slideshow, the screen said, “Will you marry me?”. As she turned to me crying, I was on one knee with the ring waiting for her answer. We both laugh looking back to that moment because she didn’t say yes. She was crying so much that we think she said “of course!” but no one has a video of this so every now and then we ask each other again to relive it.