When I asked Mer to marry me and we told our family and friend they were excited but also a little hesitant. For almost all of them except for our friends this wedding will be the first gay wedding they attend and may ever attend.
Meridyth’s family is also known for pitching in and making things happen and are known to throw great parties. However, myself being stubborn and not liking to ask for help and also figuring that they were uncomfortable with the whole wedding itself, I figured I would do everything on my own including figuring out the music, cake, chuppah, dishes, decorations, etc…
My mom is definitely going to help me figure some of it out since we will be using some of her very much appreciated money, but I need to come to her with ideas and decisiveness that was honestly making me a nervous wreck. Hence my post about budgets sucking.
Then came Christmas and I started talking to one of Meridyth’s cousins who offered her knowledge and expertise and said she wanted to be our wedding planner for free and that I wouldn’t be alone in finding vendors and making other decisions. I couldn’t believe how excited she was for us and how much she wanted to help!
Then, Mer’s Aunt and Uncle that same night offered to provide us a D.J. for the party as their wedding present to us, which again showed such support and love in wanting to make our day special.
Finally, my best friend Steph, who is like a little sister to me, called me and said she wanted to buy the wedding cake for Mer and I as her present to us because she wanted to contribute in making the day special.
As I am writing this post I still can’t believe how much support and love people have shown us in both actions and comments. Especially since I wasn’t expecting any of it! This is a reminder to me to take down some of those walls that I have built up in thinking that people in our families don’t approve.
The wedding is starting to come together and I can’t be more appreciative for all of the love and support we have received so far.