When I asked Mer to marry me and we told our family and friend they were excited but also a little hesitant. For almost all of them except for our friends this wedding will be the first gay wedding they attend and may ever attend.
Meridyth’s family is also known for pitching in and making things happen and are known to throw great parties. However, myself being stubborn and not liking to ask for help and also figuring that they were uncomfortable with the whole wedding itself, I figured I would do everything on my own including figuring out the music, cake, chuppah, dishes, decorations, etc…
My mom is definitely going to help me figure some of it out since we will be using some of her very much appreciated money, but I need to come to her with ideas and decisiveness that was honestly making me a nervous wreck. Hence my post about budgets sucking.
Then came Christmas and I started talking to one of Meridyth’s cousins who offered her knowledge and expertise and said she wanted to be our wedding planner for free and that I wouldn’t be alone in finding vendors and making other decisions. I couldn’t believe how excited she was for us and how much she wanted to help!
Then, Mer’s Aunt and Uncle that same night offered to provide us a D.J. for the party as their wedding present to us, which again showed such support and love in wanting to make our day special.
Finally, my best friend Steph, who is like a little sister to me, called me and said she wanted to buy the wedding cake for Mer and I as her present to us because she wanted to contribute in making the day special.
As I am writing this post I still can’t believe how much support and love people have shown us in both actions and comments. Especially since I wasn’t expecting any of it! This is a reminder to me to take down some of those walls that I have built up in thinking that people in our families don’t approve.
The wedding is starting to come together and I can’t be more appreciative for all of the love and support we have received so far.
That so rocks! You guys have an excellent support network around you. It’s so great to see that there are so many people wanting to participate in making the day so special for you and Meridyth!
Jessica,
First, congratulations! I am so happy you are getting the love and support you deserve from your families and friends. Our families ended up shocking us throughout our wedding process. I found my wedding to be the most family affirming experience I’ve had – and I was expecting just the opposite. I hope more and more LGBT couples find the same surprise! Best of luck as you go through this process!
We were caught off guard by the outpouring of love and support too. I literally couldn’t believe it when word got around that we were engaged and we started getting engagement presents from our extended family. I was ready for lots of (maybe rude) questions…but presents, really, just for us? We didn’t even have an engagement party.
I’m really happy for you both!
This is amazing! Rose and I are also on a tight budget for our wedding so when we were offered so much help and support it was really amazing. A friend of mine offered to be our wedding planner, too!
Having people provide help is such a great way to feel how happy they are for you, which is really important to a gay couple. I’m so excited to see how all this love turns out at your wedding!
What awesome families and friends! That kind of support is worth more than any amount of money or presents. Your post really touched my heart. So happy for you both!