Before proposing to my lovely boo, I never realized how huge the wedding industry was. To put it simply – or at least attempt to – it is like you know that the sun is a big, massive star but you don’t get the full depth of it because you aren’t close to it, that’s how I felt about anything wedding related. I hope that made sense!
Once I proposed to my girl in December and we started our journey figuring out all the ins and outs of getting married, we both realized how much we really didn’t know. If I had it my way, I would just roll up in whatever I felt pretty in that day, have Lash do the same and we just go to the nearest ordained person that could marry us. Renting a place, finding that ordained person, compiling music, finding dresses, colors, attendants, making sure the family would support the cause, finding a state where we could legally do the deed, etc. etc. Suffice to say, our list is now hella long. We are slowly ticking off the list but we still have WAYS to go.
Thankfully, we have the internet, books, friends and the like to see what others have done with all kinds of budgets, which makes me happy but at the same time – it is slightly bittersweet. I guess I have that silly fear about whether our wedding will be captured so beautifully in pictures. I wonder, if I can get married with $10,000 as my budget as the maximum amount; I know others pull it off effortlessly but that’s them – not me!
And I have to be honest, part of me wants to see a wedding with brides similar to my lady and myself. Some might see it as picky and this thought has even gotten me into a little bit of trouble on this blog, but I can’t help but to be honest. It would be nice – I’m happy that Essence published a blog with two ladies in there and gave us pictures of their wedding. I know that there are black lesbians getting married but dammit, I want to see their pictures – come out of hiding, you have a fan in me!
So do I have inspiration? Yes and no. I have heaps of gorgeous wedding photos but I do I want to see more diversity, I would be lying if I said that I didn’t. I will be honest that my heart beats a little faster when I see the diverse, LGBTQ couples getting their wedding on!