Okay, so I know that everyone is annoyed when tax day rolls around… but I’ve got a serious bone to pick with the U.S. government… Let me begin from the beginning….
So, although we’re in the middle of planning a wedding, we’re actually already legally married. When Beau proposed, the only place we could tie the knot in the eyes of the law was in California (oh, the good ol’ days). It was July of 2008 when Beau proposed and the vote on Prop 8 was coming up in November. We felt like July to November just wasn’t enough time to plan the wedding that we wanted. So, we decided that we’d fly out from Baltimore to San Francisco to do the legal knot-tying before the prop 8 vote and then have the big wedding celebration a year later (August, 2009).
So, when it comes to California, New York, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Iowa, Vermont, and DC law… we’re actually already married. Which is why doing our taxes was such a freakin’ downer! Just on a lark, we decided that we’d fiddle with the taxcut software that we bought and see what would happen if we pretended that we could file jointly. And honestly, I really didn’t think it would make that much of a difference. Boy, was I wrong. It turns out that if our marriage was legally recognized by the federal government and we had been able to file jointly, we would have saved $3027. No joke. That is just INSANE! I’m a teacher and Beau is a grad student, we don’t own any property, our car is 10 years old… $3027 is a LOT of money to us.
The craziest part is that I’m entering a doctorate program next year when Beau goes back to full-time work, which means we’ll be in a really similar financial situation for probably the next five years at least… that means that for the years that we will have been in school, we will have been cheated out of $20,000. I can’t even fathom that.
Anyway… it really brought the whole marriage equality fight home to us… yet again.